Jomo to get back my Mojo
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me time doesn’t come easily to me…

But appears to be a necessity…

I like to say/think that I’m powered by people (and peanut butter). And more precisely, I get my energy, my joy, what gets me going, when I see the people I love being touched, surprised, feeling loved, supported and cared for.
I spend a lot of time listening, observing, paying attention to the little things. And as much as I can, as often as I can, I use these information to make my people smile.
It makes me feel alive.

I live in a House with 40 people and we have an ongoing discussion about how much people give and take and how to find the right balance, and what is it to be a giver and a taker, and how does a Community thrives with all type of people, why do some of us emotionally burn out , while do other feel pressured to do more and some want more rules and structure are faced with people using “guidelines” and “values”.

I find myself forced to ask questions: “do I do what I do for recognition? If I stop “giving” what is my role in the Community? The Society?” “ If I stop giving, do I sill know my place?” “is this who I am?” “Do I expect things in return?”

And I’m not too sure anymore. What I’m sure of is that I’m starting to feel a bitterness in all this.

So I’m doing a bit of research. I started reading about Altruism, Matthieu Ricard’s book that discusses among other things, empathy, selflessness, compassion and all those things that, according to him (and me) are to be reckon with and should be given more attention to when working towards a better Society.
I have also enrolled in a free course on Coursera called The Science of Well Being and in the meantime, I m backing off a bit.

I take a little break in trying to be everywhere with and for everyone and I enjoy what they now call JOMO: The JOY of Missing Out in the hope of getting back to the core of why I liked to be there for people in the first place.

Let’s see how that goes…

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Connect - Understand - Create : Yoga retreat #4

My friend Jho once wrote “Connection is what we need, understanding is what we want, creation is what we do”, I have been quoting him everywhere I can ever since.

When I met Natalie for the 1st time almost 2 years ago there was definitely a connection, and we quickly understood each other and decided to create something together.
And I m so proud of the program we have put together, the work we have done and the lessons we learn, each time. And I am so happy to announce we are ready to welcome 6 new friends for our next session in 2019 !

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Join us for a week of “The good slow life” !

We only take a maximum of 6 people at once which means we create a very intimate atmosphere and have time to really listen to each other and be there for one another, on and off the mat.

We welcome all levels! Our focus is to really listen to our body and mind, to take a week to rest and deeply relax. Our classes are always adapted to our students, to the energy level, and to the mood of the moment.
Natalie is an amazing Chef and I am an acceptable sous-chef who works well with directions, which means you will be treated to pretty amazing breakfast/brunch and dinners.
Between your 2 classes of the day you have plenty of “me-time” to look forward to.

We have a couple of workshops, fun activities and field trips up our sleeves but we strongly advise you to also:
- walk on the beach
- run along the cliff
- read in the hammocks
- surf (or try to surf)
- Take loads of naps…
- stare at the view until you can’t take it anymore (has not happened to me yet)

We have wifi and working remotely, whilst frowned upon, is possible ;-)

More information & booking here. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you have questions!

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A simple life.

I want a simple life. I said that at breakfast the other day. I m not sure what that entails to be honest. It just felt right.

This year I have been given an immense amount of freedom. And I have learnt the hard way that the more freedom you get the harder you need to work. On yourself.

I spent half the year rejoicing in that sea of opportunities, the wonderful flexibility, that long longed for ability to pick and choose, that privileged life. I abandoned myself to it. And slowly drowned in it.

And I spent the rest of the year struggling to stay at the surface. I didn’t understand why things were not going the way I wanted, why I kept getting sick and was always tired and frustrated. People told me to slow down, to stop saying yes to everything but of course I didn’t listen. Because actually the freedom made me feel like I was not working enough, like I had to prove myself more. It took me almost a year to realise I didn’t have to work more but better.

Nature helps.

Nature helps.

By wanting to do everything at once to not disappoint anyone you do nothing well and end up disappointing everyone. And yourself.

So that happened. And now I need to start over.

  • no more trips for a few weeks

  • more sleep

  • more introvert and me time

  • more exercice

  • more routine

  • more saying “no” and speaking up to avoid keeping the frustration inside

  • Less multitasking, more focus.

  • more of the little things I like: writing, reading…

Actually I was just reading my friend Lolita’s article (in french) on the “slow life” and felt it was written for me. That quote in particular really stuck with me:


It’ s not because you live 100km/h that you live fully
- Cindy Chapelle.


Maybe it’s not a “simple life” that I want, but just a Life well lived and for that I need to be acting not re-acting.

On that note I’m gonna have a piece of chocolate.

M.

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Cry on the beach.

Today I thought about what I would write next.

I thought I could write about the fact that despite loving my “digital nomad” status I find it very difficult to really turn off work mode when on vacay and truly let go and relax… Or how co-living and our House’s values are so deeply anchored within me that I go through this weird limbo re-adaptation period every time I go back Home to France , or finally that no matter how busy you keep yourself, feelings and aches will always catch up.


Instead I cried on the beach.

So I pondered that for a while and I thought I would just share that.

That sometimes, it doesn’t matter if you are in paradise, with people who love you unconditionally, with good food and no care in the world.

Sometimes you just have to accept that you can’t help but cry on the beach.

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Co-everything

The very first time I heard about collective living I pictured a Russian kolkhoz. The second time I imagined a dirty student fraternity. The third time, someone took me to K9, Tech Farm.

Since entering the world of co-living about a year ago, I have slowly began to challenge what I had been taught by school and Society all these years: that individualism and competition are the golden tickets for success.
Instead I began to question everything, to find ways to turn competition into inspiration and even re-define what inspiration and success are for me.

I grew up, and started growing old, in a Society where it is so easy to unconsciously build walls around ourselves to protect our truth from coming out instead of bridges to let other people’s truths’ in. We have built a society around the individual. We have been told that it’s a weakness to depend on anyone but yourself.

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But I have learnt through experience that letting people in, and relying on others is not necessarily a weakness. That is is a real strength to care for people and be cared for. We don’t have to be Corbusian machines. We can be human. We can not only learn how to share more, but also inspire others to do the same.

Let’s go back to the authenticity of the human interaction and the simple practise of getting together to share, discuss, debate and re-learn how to listen. Not to respond but to truly understand, to paraphrase Stephen R. Covey. If we do this well, from those conversations will emerge genuine inspiration. It will be messy at first. But it will create a spark. And if people feel inspired and supported and given the emotional tools to take the leap, then there’s nothing stopping them. And there’s hope again. Hope of creating a world where it’s not about running over each other to get higher but building together to get deeper.

Those who survive are not necessarily the strongest, but those who are most cooperative, says social biologist Pablo Sevigne.

Of course you can change and grow on your own. But surrounded by people, nurtured, cheered on and challenged by a Community, the growth is exponential, the possibilities are endless. All this, and so much more, I have learnt at K9, Tech Farm. Our Home is a place full of mirrors where you see yourself from all possible angles. A place where you are teacher and student all at once. Where you set your boundaries and define your values, and learn to question them over and over. There is little space for fake smiles and false identities in the House. Or they don’t last long. Very fast the masks drop and those who prefer to keep them on, eventually move on. It can be demanding at times. And one should be ready for it. What you see is not always pretty. In yourself as well as in others. But the reflection is rarely skewed. And the lessons always valuable.

Peer pressure is often seen as a negative thing. But there is a good side of it we often forget about. In the House you are exposed to people and behaviours you would probably never had encountered otherwise. Routines and values that are new to you but might actually be what you need at this particular time in your life. Personally, I learnt to questions my positions on everything and justify my thoughts. I learnt to tell my story in new ways and love sides of my personality that Society usually regards as a weakness. At home we build bridges and put down fences. We improve wellbeing and open ourselves to richer and more purposeful lives. Not by denying our individualities, but by embracing them.

Today I dream of more places like this one. We create safe heavens for emotions. That’s where the best learning happens. An inspirational lab maybe? I want to bring people together and create a spark. A spark that will help people grow. I want to bring people to the point where they share their dreams and visions without being self conscious. I want to see that Eureka moment. And I want to tell stories about those moments.

I believe that together we grow healthier, stronger and smarter towards a brighter and more sustainable future. Through questioning and redefining the way we teach and are taught, the way we inspire and are inspired, the way we interact, the way we approach the world and others, we co-create endless possibilities.

I believe in the power of the Community. Its healing power.

And I want to create spaces that bring inspiration to our lives. I focus on people. People who choose to live together not solely out of economic necessity but because it brings magic, meaning and momentum to their lives. The experience of ‘collective inspiration’ is my core purpose; to spark a state of being where people are filled with the emotion to connect and the energy to create. In this state we are our best selves, we are filled with passion and love, with wonder and awe, and those moments become even greater when they are shared. I want to inspire and teach people how to best live together. How to transcend intimacy, openness and respect. How to nurture passion, compassion, communication, co-creation and laugher to feel empowered and find a greater sense of connection, belonging and purpose.

This is what I stand for.

M.

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