My book baby is out!

Someone said that when a book is delivered to the world, it’s no longer in your hands, therefor you can’t compare it to a baby. Because a baby you gotta take care of for a long, long time. My book don’t need me anymore. It’s ready to fly on its own, and therefor I will let it fly.

Someone else said that if you don’t like sales in particular you can focus on sharing instead. So here I am, sharing with you, that my book is now available for pre-order on my website. You can also download the Opening of the book in either Swedish or English when you sign up for my newsletter.

That’s what I’m sharing with you today.

I would be lying saying I’m not super excited about getting to witness the difference this book can make in people’s lives. If you know of anyone who would benefit of a little hope on their journey, make sure to share it with them too.

Happy. Thank you. More, please!

With all my love,

Helena

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Life as a writer

Hours and hours of editing. Solving technical issues and creative challenges. Look. Feel. Editing again. Focus time and losing it. Blurry eyes from staring at the written word for hours on end. Procrastination. Giving up and getting at it again. Losing hope and finding inspiration. Creating space and disappearing in other busyness. This journey has not been all shiny roses.

And yet.

Pouring your heart into the page and realizing it lands. Creating something from nothing. Cups of tea in front of the fireplace. Writing in nature, in the sofa, by the desk, in hotel lobbies and on the train. Letting your book baby create her own identity in the world. Knowing that it will make a difference. Watching it make a difference, for someone, somewhere.

It’s like all of life. Paradoxical. Both and much, much more.

I’m so proud of myself for keeping myself accountable and for getting it out into the world. Yesterday I hit publish on my book in Swedish. It’ll be available on Amazon soon and on my website in a few weeks. I’ll be sure to let you know about its unfolding.

But for now, letting it rest. Letting me rest. Hope you let yourself do the same if you need it.

With all my love,

Helena

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When you're bored, do this!

One of my favorite pastimes when I'm bored is to make lists in my head of all the things I'm grateful for. When in line, in a traffic jam, waiting for a friend. Once you get warmed up, you will probably be so fully filled with appreciation for all the awesomeness in your life that you'll be able to take a dip in the awesome gratitude jacuzzi. 

Is there any better way to pass the time? 

Watch where your mind wanders and you might realize why your life is the way it is. Make conscious decisions about where you direct it and you'll create more of the things you're really grateful for. Give it a try! 

With all my love,
Helena

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Why I wrote the book

I first got sick when I was 12. Got my first diagnosis at 13. And I thought: I feel really lonely in this. If I ever get out on the other side I’ll write a book about it to help others.

It took many years for the book to be written and it’s not specifically written for teenagers but it’s still the book I was supposed to write. Working through the book again for the translation is making me fall in love with it all over again.

I think one of the reasons why it took me so long to get this book finished was that it was supposed to be a broader book than it originally would have been. This is not a book for only sick people. It’s not for the broken. It’s a book that embraces the wholeness of everyone. It’s a book about hope. A book about life. A book about holistic healing.

I really hope that you’ll like it.

With all my love,

Helena

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Both and more

I heard someone say about pain and fear, that they say hello in a very overwhelming way. They don’t just sneak up on us or tap us on the shoulder. When pain or fear comes to visit they almost drown us out completely. At least temporarily.

That’s okay. You’re okay even if you’re in pain or fear.

But what if there’s more there? What if other things could co-exist with pain or fear? What if there could also be beauty? Or comfort? Or lots of love in the midst of misery?

I recently did a training about healing. I am currently finishing the translation of my book. I do regular blood tests and one of them came out slightly out of the normal and needs to be checked again.

Welcome fear. Welcome pain. You’re here again. That’s okay. We know each other well although we’ve drifted apart in recent years. But I still love you, although I don’t particularly like either of you.

I try to practice what I preach. Being with it. Letting more in. Asking what it wants me to know. And knowing that in this present moment, only love exists. I’m not in a life threatening situation. I am safe. In front of my computer. Writing words of comfort.

With all my love,

Helena

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So, I wrote this book...

I wrote this book last year called: Pure Personal Power - tools to collect on a healing journey. I’m really proud about it but I realize I haven’t talked much about it in a while.

It’s the story of my journey of healing and it has 32 tools and countless tips on how you can take the power back of your life and health. I wrote it in English to be inclusive but soon realized that some Swedes felt excluded because they were not comfortable reading in English and so I translated it. The Swedish version will be out very soon and the English version is of course still available.

The translation has been a long time coming but I’m for sure approaching the finish line. I truly hope that it will reach a lot of people because I wrote what I myself needed to read a few years back. Taking back the power over your life is not always easy, but with guidance and inspiration it definitely doable.

 This is me about a year ago, getting the first proof copy of the printed book.

This is me about a year ago, getting the first proof copy of the printed book.

 My book, reaching readers in 9 different countries!

My book, reaching readers in 9 different countries!

 A surreal feeling; signing my own book at my book release.

A surreal feeling; signing my own book at my book release.

 Required book club reading :)

Required book club reading :)

 This is a crazy person promoting her book.

This is a crazy person promoting her book.

 Dream come true talk about the book.

Dream come true talk about the book.

Soon, very soon, you’ll be able to order the book in both Swedish and English online. If you haven’t read it yet, I highly recommend you stay tuned for updates to come!

Check out the English version here or here.

With all my love,

Helena

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Don't go looking for pain

I try to live my life according to the principle of pleasure. It’s difficult because my mind, just as most of ours, has something called the negativity bias. This means it looks for problems and threats, just because that used to be the reason humans would survive in the wild.

We don’t live in the wild anymore and most threats are made up in our minds, although our mind is not smart enough to realize when the threat is made up and when there’s an actual tiger in front of us. So we need to practice. Looking for pleasure instead of looking for pain.

No matter how many problems you have and what you’re struggling with right now, you are not obliged to constantly think about your pain points. It’s not responsible. Responsible is setting aside time for taking appropriate action towards solving your problem, feeling your feelings around the issue, asking for help, but just as much letting it go, staying with the present, giving it space and taking pleasure in life.

You know when you wake up in the morning and you actually feel fine but your mind goes on a hunt for the problem at hand. As if it’s the job of the mind to never lose track of it. Catch it before it finds it. Take charge by filling your mind with the beauty in your life, the moments of bliss, all the things you have to be grateful for. Pain will unfortunately find you, you don’t have to go looking for it.

With all my love,

Helena

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Accept judgement and criticism

Most people don’t really enjoy judgement or criticism. A lot of us are people pleasers that only want others to like us. Which, we also know, is practically impossible. But still we try, to fix, to adjust, to please. All because we don’t want the judgement or criticism.

But what if we could just accept that judgement and criticism is part of life? That it will happen to us whether we fight our whole lives to avoid it or we simply live our lives regardless of what other people might think?

It’s usually the resistance to whatever scares us that ends up hurting us more. Because what we resists persists. Which means, acceptance gives us freedom. Acceptance increases the possibility of the icky feeling moving through faster, and not lingering too long. Also, if we could accept judgement and criticism as part of life endless possibilities open up, we can do whatever we want!

Also, what other people think of you is none of your business, it’s their business. And it usually tells you a lot more about them, and how they’re suffering, than it tells you anything new about you.

Don’t be afraid of people not liking you. Some people just don’t. And they won’t. That’s okay. Focus on the ones that do love you, they deserve all of your attention.

With all of my love,

Helena

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What does support look like right now?

I heard one of my favorite mentors, Brene Brown, suggest this question on Marie Forleos podcast the other day.

People (read: me and you) are generally not very good at asking for help. In especially difficult times in our lives it’s also pressure added to come up with, ask for and delegate what we need help with to others. This question is so good to ask because it: 1) states that we are willing to give support 2) we take away the burden of saying yes to help.

Whenever this question is posed it gives an opportunity for the person being asked to go inward and check what is needed right now. It could be whatever; a hug, some space, help with buying food, permission to went, togetherness in silence, some advice, a lift somewhere…

Try it. Next time someone in your life is going through something hard, try simply asking: What does support look like right now? and for the extra ballsy, try asking yourself the same when you’re low. How could you support yourself in this instance?

With all my love,

Helena

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The cure for a busy mind

Everyone has about the same amount of thoughts in a day; somewhere around 65 000 of them. Yet, some people feel constantly overwhelmed by their monkey mind and a sense of no control over what's going on in there. What if the difference is only the quality of thought, not the amount? 

If your thoughts are mostly positive, constructive and light you probably don't experience the same overwhelm as if they're negative, destructive and dark, right? If this is the case, how could we lean more towards the lighter thoughts? 

I think meditation is one of the best tools there is for this kind of work. By regular meditation you train your mind to observe what's going on instead of getting kidnapped by them constantly. When you first observe you can also train to make conscious decisions on what kinds of thoughts to follow and which ones to let go of. 

What do you think? Does this reasoning make sense to you? 

With all my love,

Helena 

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Heaven and hell is right here

What if heaven and hell is nothing but a mind construct? What if they're both part of the human experience? What if we are so afraid to go to hell that we create hell right here? 

Some say religions are for people who don't want to go to hell and spirituality are for those who's already been. - Rob Bell 

This rings so true to me. I believe we can create heaven or hell right here. It's not about our circumstances, it's about how we perceive our circumstances. I gave up on religion partly because of the concept of hell. I don't think anyone deserves to go there, but I do believe that some people create it for themselves in this lifetime. For a while they drag others into their personal hell, but it's up to every individual whether they want to stay there or not. 

Heaven is right here. That's where I choose to live. 

With all my love,

Helena 

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Expanding time

Are you one of the many running around the hamster wheel longing for more time? Always in a loss for it? Never getting enough done on the limited time you have? 

What if you are creating your own lacking by affirming it? What if time would expand for you if you would just believe it could? What if time is a concept and a fantasy that we all have just agreed on? 

I experience it sometimes. Time expanding for me. The key for me is always presence. Intense presence. When I'm present with the moment it seems to expand for me. It lasts forever. Isn't that the truth anyway? The present moment will always be right there for you so if more moments, which multiplied will turn into more time, is what you want, all you have to do is be with it. 

Some say that time flies when you're having fun and it stops when you're bored. I say, time expands with presence. When you stop guilt-tripping about all the things you didn't do or worry about the things you won't have time to do, but stay with what is, you will always be provided with the time you need. 

Life happens in the moments. Time is just a concept of moments multiplied. Focus on the essentials. 

With all my love,

Helena 

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