Never too late for firsts


There are firsts where we have no choice in the matter. The first time we talked or walked. It just somehow happened as a general growing and learning process.

But the more we learn the more we start fearing. And with fear comes all the reasons why we should not do something, why it is wiser to postpone. We want to stay safe.

When you think about it, if we had had this kind of thinking as toddlers we would not have gone far. It must have been terrifying to stop crawling and suddenly try to balance on those tiny feet. But every cell in our body tended to this. We wanted it. And we felt safe. We didn’t think of the possible negative outcomes, we didn’t think our parents would laugh and point, on the contrary, they would be proud. So we watched, learned and when the timing was right, we went for it. We fell and tried again.

When did we stop doing that?

When we learned about consequences. When we learned about responsibilities and time flying by.

And when doing took over being.

The good thing is, it´s never too late for firsts. We might still find excuses, we might fear, but the truth is, one day, it’s too late to die young. And then it’s time to make the most of it.

People say good things come to those who wait. I’ll admit patience is a virtue, but without the guts to ever act, one can wait a long time.

Take the plunge. Join a ballet class, go diving, start acting or knitting. Talk to strangers, wear heels, dye your hair, write a book, say I love you to someone, to yourself.…The more “firsts” you’ll have the easier it will get. Everything is a learning process. Everything is difficult before it becomes easy.

Look at where taking your first step all those years ago took you and what if you had not taken it. Trust that great things happen to those who get out of their comfort zone and try new things. Always. No matter how old you are and feel, there’s always a new day and with that, new firsts awaiting.

By: Morgane Oléron